| SAFE in Hunterdon Serving Women, Men and Families in Crisis |
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| SAFE in Hunterdon is a not-for profit agency serving victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in Hunterdon County, New Jersey. MISSION STATEMENT In an atmosphere of professionalism and excellence, our mission is to: Reduce the prevalence of intimate violence in society. Provide safety through free and confidential services for victims and survivors of domestic abuse and sexual assault including all ages, genders, cultures, religions and sexual orientations. Empower victims, survivors and their families to live enriched lives free from violence. Heighten our community's awareness of domestic violence and sexual assault through risk reduction education. |
| The only way SAFE in Hunterdon can continue to provide free services such as emergency shelter, counseling and legal advocacy is with your help. |
SAFE in Hunterdon is a United Way Member and a
member of the New Jersey Coalition for Battered Women
member of the New Jersey Coalition for Battered Women
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Dating Violence
According to the Bureau of Justice (2001), girls ages 16-24
encounter the most abuse in their intimate relationships. It
happens across all social lines, ethnic backgrounds and
orientations. You or someone you know may be a victim.
Abuse is easy to identify when it's sexual or physical, but
sometimes control can be more elusive. Here are some other
signs that a boyfriend or girlfriend may be taking control:
Sexual Assault
1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 guys will be sexually assaulted by the age
of 18!
Chances are, most of these assaults will be by a person the
victim knows, too.
Sexual assault is a form of sexual violence, where a person did
not give consent or with someone who was not able to give
consent.
People who are not able to give consent include:
Rape is not about sex; it is about POWER!
Just because somenone is drunk, or by himself/herself at a party,
or dressed a certain way, does not make it his/her fault if he/she
is assaulted.
The only person who canstop a rape is the rapist.
Being a Friend
If one of your friends is being abused or tells you that he/she has
been assaulted, there are 2 very important things you can do:
LISTEN and BELIEVE.
Remember, this is not stuff that people talk about.
In a case where you think that your friend's life may be in danger,
then report the situation to the proper authorities. Otherwise, it's
really easy to think you know what's best for someone you care
about, but try not to be the "powerful expert". Be supportive and
ask your friend what he/she wants to do and how you can help.
Don't take control of the situation for your friend. He/she has
already been victimized once.
According to the Bureau of Justice (2001), girls ages 16-24
encounter the most abuse in their intimate relationships. It
happens across all social lines, ethnic backgrounds and
orientations. You or someone you know may be a victim.
Abuse is easy to identify when it's sexual or physical, but
sometimes control can be more elusive. Here are some other
signs that a boyfriend or girlfriend may be taking control:
- He/she makes you feel guilty all the time or like
everything is your fault. - He/she embarrasses or humiliates you in front of
other people. - He/she threatens to kill himself/herself if you break up
with him/her. - He/she tracks all the phone calls and text messages
that you make and receive. - He/she harasses or stalks you when you try to end
the relationship. - He/she scares you when he/she gets angry.
- He/she blames you for the way he/she feels.
- He/she makes you do everything with him/her.
- He/she makes you doubt yourself.
Sexual Assault
1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 guys will be sexually assaulted by the age
of 18!
Chances are, most of these assaults will be by a person the
victim knows, too.
Sexual assault is a form of sexual violence, where a person did
not give consent or with someone who was not able to give
consent.
People who are not able to give consent include:
- Someone under the age of 13, or
- Someone under the age of 16 when the assailant is
at least 4 years older, or - Someone with diminished mental capacity, which can
mean a victim who is drugged, drinking, high,
unconscious, or has a developmental disability.
Rape is not about sex; it is about POWER!
Just because somenone is drunk, or by himself/herself at a party,
or dressed a certain way, does not make it his/her fault if he/she
is assaulted.
The only person who canstop a rape is the rapist.
Being a Friend
If one of your friends is being abused or tells you that he/she has
been assaulted, there are 2 very important things you can do:
LISTEN and BELIEVE.
Remember, this is not stuff that people talk about.
In a case where you think that your friend's life may be in danger,
then report the situation to the proper authorities. Otherwise, it's
really easy to think you know what's best for someone you care
about, but try not to be the "powerful expert". Be supportive and
ask your friend what he/she wants to do and how you can help.
Don't take control of the situation for your friend. He/she has
already been victimized once.
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